Tamaddon

“The job of a father is this : to help his children develop, to teach them to express and master their emotions; to avoid physiological distress, to provide a context for their experiences; to help them persevere, reach their goals and take on responsibilities; and to instill the roles of citizen, partner and parent. In short, it is to fill their bellies with bread, their brains with wisdom and their hearts with love and courage.” Camil Bouchard, “On Father’s Ground” 2004.
Some men see things as they are and say, "Why?" I dream of things that never were and say, "Why not?" ~ George Bernard Shaw ~ also quoted by Robert F. Kennedy, US Senator and Candidate Presidential.

AA A lonely father

A very special man that lives for his kids, but that has been through so much!

please pray that his children will be able to be with their family soon. That all the heartbreak he has gone through will stay in the past and that his faith in GOD will stay strong

DAT -10/05/2004

Since he kept away from his children

Invictus
Out of the night that covers me,
Black as the Pit from pole to pole,
I thank whatever gods may be
For my unconquerable soul.

In the fell clutch of circumstance
I have not winced nor cried aloud.
Under the bludgeonings of chance
My head is bloody, but unbowed.

Beyond this place of wrath and tears
Looms but the Horror of the shade,
And yet the menace of the years
Finds, and shall find, me unafraid.

It matters not how strait the gate,
How charged with punishments the scroll.
I am the master of my fate:
I am the captain of my soul.
William Ernest Henley
It is an unfortunate fact that divorce has become commonplace in our society. The pain and anguish this is created in a divorce has a ripple effect on the family unit. Often family members are confused as how to act around the now divorced couple. Children are often used as pawns between their father and mother. Each one may try to gain the upper hand in the battle for their children's affection. Getting divorced may be necessary in cases when a relationship cannot be salvaged. However, the couple should keep in mind that the entire family unit will be affected by a divorce.

Poem Source: TAMADDON

Here are some ideas for you to work with. I am pleased and happy to step out and assist in this effort at restoring sanity to the human relationship between a man and a woman.
Parenting is a right granted by God and country. The right to equal parenting time is enshrined in our culture and our government, through our constitution, and undeniable. God wrought a mother and a father, each of whom contributes half to the whole of the child and so shall it be so in our courtrooms. The right to equal parenting time shall be granted upon request and nothing more, as proof of its righteousness lies only in the evidence committed by our Creator. Only by proof beyond areasonable doubt, a clear and convincing trial, and evidence of unfitness may it be considered for removal, and only then for just and undeniable cause in the eyes of fellow citizens.

The State shall presume the parents to cooperate. The State shall assert no interest in the relationship between a parent and the other parent, between the parent and the child, and the other parent and the child, beyond a presumption of cooperation. The State thereby asserts that the best interest of the child is served by parental cooperation. A component of that cooperation is the presumption of equal parenting time, the presumption of open and objective communication between parents, and a courtroom that expresses an interest only in that cooperation and nothing more. Further, the courtroom shall deflect all attempts at establishing an adversarial relationship between parents, between any parent and the State, and between any parent, another parent, and a child. The courtroom shall thus be converted to and maintained as safe haven for the establishment of open cooperation between parents, to the express purpose of their doting love and natural nurturing of the child created as a result of their relationship. Each parent thus bears both the right and the responsibility to mandate and the judiciary to compel objection to any other purpose.

The State shall presume a structure to family law enabling the representation of any parent in the courtroom without specialty, without legal representation by licensed practitioners of the law, be absolved of personal disparagement by legal professionals, to be absolved of personal exposure by professional medical and psychological personnel, to be absolved of all proof of fitness. Such attempts to establish personal disparagement in the courtroom are hereby expressly forbidden. Family law shall become a simple domain, understandable by common men and women of reason and alertness. The law serves no purpose to the common man when it becomes nothing but a playground of professional rule-making, complicated exceptions, and devious attempts at social control using children as financial and social hostages by paid professionals.

I've evolved my statements in various ways --- try to consider the concept of establishing a clear and simple directive.

1 week from today there is a chance for the people who will be so drastically affected by COBS to speak up- to make a difference and to STOP COBS from even happening!!

1 week from today there is a chance to stop injustice, to fight for the right to determine what is in our children's best interests and show how much we care about their future!!

1 week from today there is a chance to put a stop to the ongoing insults the judiciary dumps on loving parents, to prove we can be heard and deserve consideration!!

1 week from today, if you are the parent your child DESERVES,

if you are a GOOD CITIZEN,

if you care about defending the RIGHTS of parents to be in their child's LIFE,

you WILL be at the AJC meeting!!

(9 a.m. Oct 21st at the State Court Building, free parking at Wesley Bolin Park)

YOU WILL SIGN THE PETITION TO STOP COBS, YOU WILL DEMAND THE AJC VOTES NO, AND YOU WILL SAVE HUNDREDS OF THOUSANDS OF FAMILIES FROM A NEW FORM OF ABUSE AT THE HANDS OF AZ JUDICIARY...

1 week from today YOU CAN MAKE HISTORY. Take a half day from work and be at the meeting. Think of the cost of NOT going- $12,000 or MORE a year going to someone that may not deserve it, who may not even spend it on your child because they will feel like the State has just given them a huge gift?! Can you live with financially rewarding someone that denied you your children? Can you live with rewarding someone that lies under oath to rip your family apart? Can you live with rewarding someone that refuses to pull their own weight, or manipulates the system to live the easy life leaving you with all the financial responsibilities and hardships?? Ask to speak or leave a comment to be read by the AJC, let them know that you DO NOT SUPPORT COBS, cannot support something so hugely detrimental to children and families. Sign the Citizens Petition!! Help others avoid a future that would be bleak and disastrous under COBS.

If you have ever lost something precious in the AZ Courts- if you have suffered under the exisiting laws, if you have had to fight tooth and nail to restore basic privileges, if you have had to spend time and money on defending your rights as a parent, be at the AJC meeting one week from today and tell them we will not let COBS burden us as well!!

This is the EASIEST way to STOP COBS- if you don't come, and it passes- the fight for EVERYTHING will be that much HARDER... .

Karen Duckworth and Aaron Barnes will be at the meeting.

Friends:

I want to thank all of you who have rallied to the cry to stop COBS from becoming the child support policy in Arizona . This was a very important victory for Fathers and Children and families in general.

We made it known clearly and loudly that we want:

1) Domestic relations policy in Arizona that places the children’s need for maximum time with both parents as the first priority.

2) Domestic Relations and Child Support Policy that is not one size fits all

3) Domestic Relations and Child Support Policy that considers ALL relevant factors

4) Domestic Relations and Child Support Policy that is done transparently with full participation of the people of Arizona .

The court will implement the updated income shares guidelines, which is not a perfect solution either, but hopefully it will be manageable for most. The court has referred COBS to the Legislature and they are going to urge the legislature to adopt it next year (October has been set as a deadline). We have the ability to stop this if we remain united.

What this means is that there is still much work to do. We have an opportunity to reshape the landscape of child support and child custody during the next 12 months. We can make things better for our children and our families, but we need to stick together and make this a priority.

I do not want to try to dictate how we do this. I just know that it is imperative that we continue to work together to ensure that domestic relations policy in Arizona in all forms is designed with the interests of ALL citizen stakeholders. We cannot leave these matters to judges, lawyers and child support enforcement officers. We need to develop our agenda for the next 12 months, and we need to begin lobbying the Legislature so that our concerns are folded into every discussion or debate relating to family law and domestic relations statutes.

I would suggest at minimum the following:

1) Child Support Policy must be returned to the Legislature on a permanent basis

2) Child Custody statutes should promote joint equal custody and should have a presumption of equal parenting time unless there is a preponderance of evidence that equal parenting time would be harmful to the child.

I want to extend my sincere thanks to the many people who contributed their time to this effort. I am certain that I have missed some names and miss-spelled others, but I would like to thank (in alphabetical order by last name):

David Alger

Aaron Barnes

Harold Brister

Sheila Clemons

Terry Decker

Jeff Deiley

Karen Duckworth

Mike Espinoza

Richard Franco

Timothy Frank

Vic Martinez

Mike McCormick

Brent Miller

Bray Pike

Crystal Stapley

Ed Stokes

Dar Tamaddon

Kevin Wasson

Damian White

Jarrett Williams

I have relied on each of you for your input as we have waged this battle. I am thankful for your friendship and your encouragement reminding me that we were fighting the good fight. I have relied on several of you for assistance with the ASPFL web site and I am particularly appreciative of Bray Pike and David Alger for their efforts to provide us with a professional quality website on a shoe-string budget.

I am particularly thankful for the tireless work by Karen Duckworth in organizing our rally and leading the charge every day. I am simply amazed at the tireless number-crunching by Jeff Deiley and the relentless flag-bearing of Brent Miller as to the Cloak of Secrecy by the GRC and the Interim Committee. I am thankful for the generous time shared by Mike McCormick from ACFC and for his wise counsel and encouragement. I am indebted to Tim Frank and Mike Espinoza for spending countless hours on the phone with me to help me to sharpen my battle sword. I am amazed at the contributions of Jarrett Williams and Damian White who with so little experience in policy matters have found ways to impact this and have put their heart and souls into making sure that people around the state and in government paid attention to us.

I also want to thank Richard Franco. Richard you have done more than you know to light a fire under me in regard to domestic relations and child custody policy. You have made a difference!

Finally, I want to thank my friend Kevin Wasson. Kevin had everything to gain by seeing COBS implemented. It would have benefited him substantially, but he knows that COBS is wrong and he has got the word out about COBS at every turn. If you don’t know about Kevin’s commitment to this effort and the instrumental role that he has played, just ask him to send you pictures of his van.

I have reached out again to impose upon Karen Duckworth to arrange a celebration event for each of us and for our families. So stay tuned for details.

Sincerely,

Dave Hamu

Acting Director of Arizonans for Sensible Policy in Family Law

Chairman of the Board, Arizona Fathers’ Rights

Tell Me Why? Lyrics

In my dream children sing a song of love for every boy and girl
The sky is blue and fields are green and laughter is the language of the world
Then I wake and all I see is a world full of people in need

Tell me why (why) does it have to be like this?
Tell me why (why) is there something I have missed?
Tell me why (why) cos I don't understand.
When so many need somebody we don't give a helping hand.
Tell me why?

Everyday I ask myself what will I have to do to be a man?
Do I have to stand and fight to prove to everybody who I am?
Is that what my life is for to waste in a world full of war?

Tell me why (why) does it have to be like this?
Tell me why (why) is there something I have missed?
Tell me why (why) cos I don't understand.
When so many need somebody we don't give a helping hand.
Tell me why?

(children) tell me why? (declan) tell me why?
(children) tell me why? (declan) tell me why?
(together) just tell me why, why, why?

Tell me why (why) does it have to be like this?
Tell me why (why) is there something I have missed?
Tell me why (why) cos I don't understand.
When so many need somebody we don't give a helping hand.

Tell me why (why,why,does the tiger run)
Tell me why (why why do we shoot the gun)
Tell me why (why,why do we never learn)
Can someone tell us why we let the forest burn?

(why,why do we say we care)
Tell me why (why,why do we stand and stare)
Tell me why (why,why do the dolphins cry)
Can some one tell us why we let the ocean die ?

(why,why if we're all the same)
tell me why (why,why do we pass the blame)
tell me why (why,why does it never end)
can some one tell us why we cannot just be friends?

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JAIUS©®
FOR DAR & SONS
Sat_10/05/2012
Time:17:58
We all missing you

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JAIUS©®
FOR DAR & SONS
Sat_10/05/2012
Time:17:58
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A Father's Rights

A Father's Rights

Cheated - A moving story that you will never forget

Cheated - A moving story that you will never forget

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Maricopa High School 2010-11 End-of-Year Awards

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Written By: {(J.A.I.U.S)®©} JAIUS©® FOR DAR & SONS Sat_10/05/2012 Time:17:58 We all missing you

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A Father's Rights

A Father's Rights

Cheated - A moving story that you will never forget

Cheated - A moving story that you will never forget

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Maricopa High School 2010-11 End-of-Year Awards

Driver Rank Total Avg * Ethan Tamaddon Pack Finals 7.349 2.4497 ...

Darria Tamaddon

Written By: {(J.A.I.U.S)®©}
JAIUS©®
FOR DAR & SONS
Sat_10/05/2012
Time:17:58
We all missing you

Written By: {(J.A.I.U.S)®©}
JAIUS©®
FOR DAR & SONS
Sat_10/05/2012
Time:17:58
We all missing you

TriValley Central > Maricopa Monitor > Top Stories > Maricopa High ...

May 20, 2011 – Amanda Corella Shayla Lolo Aaron Tamaddon Elizabeth Cuellar Maria Lopez Nicholle Thompson Kirsten Cunningham Katelyn Moore Shayne Todd ...
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